Danielle, The Prude

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My name is Danielle and I’m a prude.

It isn’t that fun. I wish I were. Like most prudes my prudishness has more to do with how I was raised than it does with any real right or wrong ideologies. Being a prude is no more correct than being wild, uninhibited and outré. But being a prude is rooted in the idea that prudishness will save you from … something.

Unwanted attention? Society’s scorn? Perverts? No one’s ever been super clear on which horrors I’m avoiding by avoiding overt sexuality. Having fun? I’ve definitely avoided having fun. Mostly out of fear that fun would lead to something terrible.

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Dark Girls in Trauma: An Open Letter to Rashida Marie Strober

But Sister-to-Sister, Dark Girl-to-Dark Girl, you’re not breaking down barriers, you’re only reinforcing them. Your apparent hate for light skin Black women is a principle act in reaffirming white supremacy. Divide and conquer tactics is not uncommon nor unfamiliar; from the division of house and field slaves, white supremacy forced us to believe that the shade of our Black skin is a credible difference.

But it isn’t — we’re all Black. And I implore you to celebrate the magical diversity of Blackness. Blackness is stronger than one shade. Blackness is a testament to our genetic strength; taking many adaptive forms, Blackness lives in multiple shades of skin as a mark of cultural survival and social endurance.

Black Millennials

Hi Sister,

I pray you’re doing well in your 15 minutes of digital limelight. Like everyone, I read your Facebook post prominently featured on Bossip. I take serious issue with that barely-there “article.” With no context, nuance, or consideration, they allowed your violent language to stand alone.

Oh Sis, don’t get me twisted or confused. I disagree with you wholeheartedly. Your language was more than offensive or hurtful … it was counterproductive, misdirected, and violent. Your words were little more than a socio-political impediment — words that not only cripple the fragile Movement for Black Liberation, but work in stark refutation to it.

But your words come from a place of pain. I call that pain Dark Girl Trauma; the unique anguish that comes with being blessed with dark, unequivocal skin. The Trauma is a piercing result of constantly being told that our skin is ugly, unacceptable, and subordinate. From…

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Suriname African Clothing Style – Pangi

More about the Suriname Pangi.

Suriname African Heritage History and Culture

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Pangi is a piece of cloth that can be worn in many ways and traditionally a pangi always has a meaning.

It can be used for spiritual meaning, for conveying a message, or simply as a fashion statement and or showing your pride in your culture.

Sometimes Surinamese will also generally call a piece of clothing a pangi.

I’m just going to deal with the basic pangi.

Pangi Basics:

Pangi as a skirt with a matching head wrap or as a skirt with matching shoulder wrap:

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The men usually wear a pangi over the shoulder as seen in these examples:

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Basic Pangi Meaning:

The basic meaning of a pangi when worn over the shoulder is as follows: If you wear it over your left shoulder, covering your heart, it means you are taken, married. If you wear it over your right shoulder it means your heart is…

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Gratitude challenge (day 1)

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This is quite fun.
I was nominated for the “gratitude challenge” by my dear cousin Mireille Liong who is such a phenomenal woman. She has a website called http://www.going-natural.com and inspires millions of women to embrace their natural beauty… Check it out.

As part of this gratitude challenge I have to say 3 things grateful for every day for 5 days…

I think focussing your mind on what your grateful for gives great perspective. And it’s an exercise I encourage to everyone.

I do this with my daughter every night before bed, we list everything we loved about our day and discuss things we can improve on tomorrow and take a moment to just feel the love….

I will share the first 3 things Rosalia and we always say to each other or I say to her before sleepy time:

1) I’m so grateful I get to be your mommy…

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Essential steps to take care of African Hair

A main reason several African ladies have issues with hair growth is that the shampoo they use. Several black ladies use shampoo with alcohol content in them – still as petrolatum and too several sulphates. Rather than exploitation these harmful shampoos, attempt employing a natural shampoo. The best part of using the natural shampoo is that it leaves the hair well moisturized and soft.

The next necessary issue to try and do for your hair is conditioning. Acquisition seals within the wetness and prevents it from obtaining brittle and comb can also move smoothly within hair.

Next, once your hair is wet, don’t brush it. Brushing out wet hair will break it off and cause a lot of harm. Use a large tooth comb to untangle it. A large toothed comb has the additional advantage of stimulating African hair growth.

Treat your hair to a hot oil treatment a minimum of once a month; confirm the treatment has further copra oil in it. Exploitation hot oil treatments with copra oil of the regular treatment is suggested because it provides the most effective softening and protection for African hair. Protein treatments are another good way to feature wetness to your hair. These treatments will offer nice deep acquisition.

Daily maintenance of your hair is another important factor for African hair growth. The healthy way to take care of your strands is to condition the ends daily and the scalp 3-4 times a week. Exploitation harsh substances like petrolatum and mineral oils can do a lot of damage to your hair thus avoid any variety of these. Instead use natural carrier oils like jojoba, grape seed, further virgin oil and crude coconut oil. These oils facilitate to deflect heat thus you’ll use a flat iron if you want and additionally helps to condition the scalp.

Next step to encourage African Hair Growth is to wrap your hair in an exceedingly cloth or silk scarf before you visit bed. Doing this can defend your hair from harm.

Eating healthy with numerous proteins and drinking numerous water could be a smart issue not just for your health except for the health of your hair. Taking these steps and limiting your use of a flat iron, can facilitate your tresses to grow and be healthy.